Henry Ford once said, “Whether you think you can or thin you can’t, you are right.” I cannot agree with this statement more. The truth is, you build you own reality. If you spend all day telling yourself you aren’t good enough to reach your goal, then you are absolutely right. You will never be good enough with that attitude. You are setting yourself up for failure and you will fail with this mentality.
When you tell yourself that you CAN do something, you will do it. Failing is not an option when you believe you can do it. So what’s the key to success? Just being positive! Yes, that is way easier said than done.
In the real world, there are challenges. There are bills, other people, events that are beyond your control. Life happens, right?
Well, here’s the part about positive thinking that I think people struggle with. It is okay to worry about the unforeseen, it is okay to feel some of the stress, and it is okay to not reach your exact goal. A little worrying is healthy. When something makes us worry, it means that we thinking about what obstacles we have. We can use the worry to prepare ourselves. For instance, perhaps you have your heart set on your dream house but are worried about the bank not approving your loan. Positive thinkers will take that worry and turn it into a plan b. What other options do you have for buying your house? Is there another bank, can you cash out some accounts, can you borrow money from a retaliative? What are the pros and cons of each of those options? Positive thinking allows you to examine your options and get on with your life. Negative thinking will take that small worry and keep you up at night, interfere with your appetite and mood, and become something huge. At the end, if you get the call from the bank and everything is fine, you have wasted days away with nothing to show for it. If the loan doesn’t go through, you will probably spend another few days saying “see, I KNEW this would happen” and dwelling on your worry some more, instead of trying to figure out a plan b.
Feeling some of the stress can be essential as well. I believe we stress when things are hard. When we reach a goal after hard work, it feels so good! It feels so much better than reaching a goal that was easy to obtain. Stress can become extremely negative. It can interfere with every aspect of our being. Finding a healthy outlet for stress is very important to all of us. Find something that works for YOU. Go on a walk, take a bath, read a book… There are so many ways you can productively handle stress. In this busy world, we often forget to take time for ourselves. Stress can actually act like a little alarm reminding us to do something for us. Also, much like worry, stress can help us figure out plans. Let’s say you are running a business and feel stressed every day after work. After a week or so, you can sit back and examine what makes you the most stressed. Perhaps you have too many tasks you need to complete each day. Hiring a manager or promoting one of your staff members can reduce that issue. Stress becomes a problem when you try to ignore it. When you tell yourself “it’s just the way life is, I can’t do anything about it”. Positive thinking helps you remember that you can always do something about it. There is always a way to make things better.
Finally, positive thinkers know that they WILL succeed. Pretend for a minute that someone has decided you want to become a nurse. A negative thinker will tell themselves they can’t do it and a positive thinker will tell themselves they can. After a couple of years, things happen and they have to stop going to school. They get a job as a nurse’s aid and work there for a few years. The negative thinker will see themselves as a failure. They might think they are too old to go back to school now and they failed. The positive thinker will know that they are a success. They will either decide to go back to school or they will realize that they are happy and successful where they are currently at. Positive thinking ensures that you are successful, even if you don’t end up exactly where you thought you would, you will be a success.
That sounds great, doesn’t it? Now how do you do it? If you have spent years as a negative thinker, it might be really hard to change to a positive thinker by yourself. You spend your whole life programming yourself to believe one thing, trying to reprogram yourself can be very time consuming and difficult. Hypnosis can help you quickly and effectively. Hypnosis can reprogram your brain to think positively. You can start experiencing the change after just one session!