Happy new year! Now is the time when most people set goals for themselves. Whether it is weight loss, making more time for themselves, working on their business, or saving money, goals for change are being made.
Change is hard. I have already discussed how to make real changes, but even with a solid plan, you can find yourself feeling frustrated. Perhaps things aren’t progressing as quickly as you had hoped, perhaps things are twice as hard as you thought they would be, maybe life got in the way. Whatever it is, most of us will feel like giving up at least once on our journey. We might scream, cry, and vent as we realize we are hitting a road block.
Here’s the secret about how to get past the road block. Ask yourself ” then what?” As in, “If I give up on this goal,then what?” What will happen if you give up? Let’s say you are trying to lose weight. If you stop doing the things you are doing, then what will happen? You will stay the weight you are currently. Will you accept it? Will you love yourself? Will you be happy? If you can honestly say yes then maybe your goal wasn’t the right one.
However, most of the time the goal is right. Take trying to start a business. Perhaps you are having problems getting started and think you should just give up and get a different job. “And then what?” Can you be happy in a job you don’t love? Will you be happy giving up your dream? Most likely the answer is no. At that point, you probably need to reevaluate your plan. If plan A doesn’t work, you might need to come up with a plan B…or C…or D. The point is, if your “then what” does not lead to happiness, you need to keep trying until you get there, and you will!
I feel I must put a disclaimer in here. Sometimes in life, you need to add a side plan. For instance, if your new business isn’t paying the bills, you might need to adjust your time and get a part time job. This doesn’t mean you are getting rid of your goal, you just need to face reality at the same time.
I also want to add that it is totally OKAY and normal to cry, scream, vent, etc if you need to. Let it out, let it all out. Once the tears dry, ask yourself “And then what?” and then get on with your plan.